How to turn yourself on alone

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Can't get the hang of it, or hitting a masturbation rut? These masturbation tips will blow open your world of self-pleasure and change everything you thought you knew about how to masturbate. Okay, it's pretty likely that you've touched yourself before, even if just tentatively in the shower during that period of teenage exploration.

That being said, plenty of women don't really know how to masturbate, let alone actually reach a full O on their own. And well, part of the reason is kind of depressing. Self-pleasure is one of the most empowering and radical things a woman can do in this world," says Rena McDaniel, M. Learn how to masturbate not only boosts your confidence and personal pleasure but learning what you do and don't like on your own makes it easier for you to enjoy—and actually get off—with a partner.

Not to mention the epic health benefits of masturbation! And if you haven't touched yourself since getting married or having kids, then we highly suggest you read ahead. If you've never had any luck with a solo session, remember: No one gets buff after one trip to the gym. The more you do it, the more you'll learn not just how to masturbate but how to masturbate for you , says Emily Morse, sex therapist and host of the podcast Sex with Emily. On the other hand, you may already know the specific set of moves to guarantee climax every time.

But even if your tried-and-true method works like a charm, over time that routine may start to feel a little, well, routine. Here, concrete steps to making your first or first in a while solo session a success-or if you simply want to get out of a solo sex rut.

Feel like you never have the time? Put it on your calendar, she suggests. McDaniel agrees, adding, "We make time for the things that are important to us. Give yourself permission to spend time on your own pleasure. It's true: Female sex drives are more sensitive to stress than those of males, meaning we have a harder time feeling aroused when we're in a bad mood, according to research from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. Exercise, take a walk, draw yourself a nice bubble bath, or set aside 15 minutes to meditate," Morse suggests.

Gunsaullus suggests setting a timer for 15 to 20 minutes, grabbing a hand mirror, and getting acquainted with not just the feel, but also the look of your sexual parts. Play with your labia lips, move them around, slide your fingers up and down-just get a feel for your body like you're an alien visiting a new planet," she says. Gunsaullus recommends something she calls "meditative masturbation"-using mindfulness and all five senses to create a romantic, nurturing, and cozy environment for yourself. Draw yourself a bath complete with bubbles and a glass of wine, turn the lights down in the bedroom and light a few candles-create the kind of environment for yourself that you would for a romantic partner.

Want more guidance on it? Check out Gunsaullus' guided visualization. Need a little erotic enhancement to put you in the mood? Try Good Vibrations After Dark , a site with a vast collection of female-friendly porn, Morse suggests. Studies have long shown that adding lube to lovemaking can ificantly increase satisfaction and pleasure-and the same can be said for solo sessions, McDaniel points out.

She suggests System JO Agape , a water-based lube she likes because it's deed to mimic your natural lubrication, or Astroglide , another water-based formula that's safe for your sex toys. McDaniel prefers silicone-based lubes, particularly SKYN Maximum Performance , which are equally safe and need to be reapplied less frequently than water-based. Either way, avoid oil-based lubes, which are harder to clean up and can break down both condoms and sex toys. And don't be afraid to bring lube into your friendly frolics-it's one of five moves to orgasm tonight.

She texted me late one night saying 'OMG. I didn't even know,'" says McDaniel. If you've only been using your fingers, it's time to treat yourself: When you're ready to try a sex toy, Morse suggests starting small.

Bullet vibes like the We-Vibe Tango or Pocket Rocket are amazing for clitoral stimulation, affordable, and easy to use, she offers. She also loves Satisfyer's products , which use air pressure stimulation to surround and pull on your clitoris instead of touching it directly, providing less direct and intense stimulation. If this isn't your first rodeo and you'd like something a little more invigorating, try the Form 2 by Jimmyjane.

While the cost is a little steep, the five different intensity levels, four different pulsing patterns, and rechargeable battery make it worthwhile, says Morse. More on that-and other vibes for all your solo and partner needs-this way. Take the longest hot bath with oils, perfume, and candles ; listen to music that makes you smile; put on your softest clothes; eat the best food; engage your senses. No one knows what's in your head other than you, so there's no need to feel embarrassed or guilty over what lights your fire.

Interestingly enough, some women are using BDSM as a form of therapy. Whereas men prefer watching porn with actual intercourse, women are more turned on by erotic clips with a concrete story, one that sets a mood, says a study in the I nternational Journal of Impotence Research. And remember, while pornos steal the show when it comes to masturbation material, there is a whole world of erotic art out there.

Experiment with what medium, as well as what type of content, gets your motor running," McDaniel says. Your whole body is capable of pleasure, Gunsaullus says, so go for a little out-of-bounds exploration. Science can give you a hint of where to start: Try light touch on the neck, forearm, and vaginal margin the edge of the vagina closest to the anus and pressure and vibration on the nipples and clitoris, according to the highest ranked female pleasure spots in a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

But touch everything and learn for yourself, paying attention to what kind of sensation and pressure feels pleasurable to you, Gunsaullus adds. Lots of women wish their partner would spend more time on foreplay-so don't speed things along for yourself either. Go three times slower than you think you should, Morse suggests. Pay attention to what feels good, better, and best, and allow those sensations to build. The will be well worth the wait. Variety is what spices up sex-even the kind we have with ourselves, says Morse.

If you haven't changed up your stroke or speed since you first learned how to masturbate, now's the time. For example, if you typically stroke yourself in a diagonal pattern-moving your fingers over your clitoris from side to side-try varying your stroke technique by caressing it using an up-and-down motion instead. Another option: Use one finger to trace circles around your clitoris without touching it directly, says Morse. The nerve endings will still be indirectly stimulated, which helps build up a lot of tension and excitement before you even zero in on your pleasure point.

Focusing on your breathing builds a deeper connection to your body, and also helps you escape any distracting thoughts like 'Am I doing this right? It's easy: Just focus your attention on your inhale and exhale-your body will do the rest. Consider tuning into your breath with these three breathwork techniques. Each product we feature has been independently selected and reviewed by our editorial team. If you make a purchase using the links included, we may earn commission. Save FB Tweet More. Samantha Sex and the City.

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